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Relationship WIN: The Triangle (Part 8)


The Triangle (Study Guide by Michael Todd)
- The equation for marriage is this: 1 + 1 + 1 = 1 
- One whole man plus one whole woman plus God in their midst creates one healthy marriage. 
- “Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace.” Ephesians 4:3
- A godly marriage is like a triangle. The husband and wife are connected at the bottom of the triangle. God is at the top, with each of the marriage partners spiritually connected to Him. 
- God in the middle of the marriage is the key to getting the relationship win. 
- Marriage reflects the relationship God has with the church. 
- God’s purpose for your marriage is that you as a couple win in relationship. 
- When you are committed to each other for life, you will discover a fuller kind of love. 
- You will never see real love until there is real sacrifice of giving. The real mark of love is giving and giving takes sacrifice. 

Love is patient and kind.
Love is not jealous.
Love is not boastful or proud.
Love is not rude.
Love does not demand its own way.
Love is not irritable.
Love keeps no record of being wronged.
Love does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever truth wins out.
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

- Marriage provides more love. Real love comes after we are married because it can. 
- “We love each other because he loved us first.” 1 John 4:19
- The adult relationships in the home matter because kids can drink only from the well that is in that house. One generation’s bad relationship begets the next generation’s pad – or worse – relationships. 
- We should reproduce out of our love, not out of our dysfunction. 
- Keep working on your own relationship with God.
- Try to understand your other’s views on God, faith, church, the Bible, and so on.
- Accept that you cannot force your other to believe.
- Continue to love and try to build up your other, look for the good in her.
- Avoid getting judgmental or acting superior. Stay humble.
- Negotiate issues like moral standards.
- Keep praying for her and ask others to pray too. Never stop believing God can soften the hardest heart.

- God’s plan is to unite and conquer; Satan’s plan is to divide and conquer. 
- The Enemy cannot break up the unity between Christ and the church, so he tries to break up its image in the world – the connection between husband and wife. 
- Remember 1 + 1 + 1. You have got to keep working on your 1. In marriage, you sacrifice your selfish desires for your spouse, but you do not give up your God-given purpose. 
- Work on your singleness, and date throughout your marriage. 

In a marriage, God want us to become ONE.
O means We Must Acknowledge Ownership.
- God is the owner of our relationship. He is the solid rock on which we build our marriage.
N stands for Nurture.
We need to spend time praying, worshipping, serving, and giving because that nurtures, or cultivates, our relationship with God. At the same time, we have to nurture our relationship with our spouse.
E stands fort Evolve.
Evolving requires growth. Growth requires change. AS you discover more about God and more about your spouse, it is inevitable for you to evolve or change. Pursue growth in both your relationship with God and you relationship with your spouse.

- Remember the goal is to become ONE – one with God and one with your spouse to create one picture of heaven on earth. 

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